Keep it short and simple
Aim for 10 to 20 minutes. Give one clear instruction at a time and allow plenty of time to respond.
Follow their best time of day
Many people are brightest in the morning. Plan activities then, and keep afternoons calm and quiet.
Focus on the moment, not the result
There is no wrong way to do an activity. Enjoyment and connection matter far more than finishing it.
Use familiar things
Objects, songs and photos from earlier life are often remembered best and spark the warmest conversation.
Reduce distractions
Turn off the television, lower background noise and sit in good light so it is easier to focus.
Offer choices of two
Ask 'Would you like music or a walk?' rather than an open question. Two options feel manageable.
Watch for signs to stop
Restlessness, sighing or looking away can mean it is time for a rest. Stop gently and try again later.
Look after yourself too
Take breaks, accept help and keep your own routines. A rested caregiver makes calmer days for both of you.
These ideas are general support, not medical advice. Speak with a doctor or dementia nurse about specific health or safety concerns.